Adam Lane Smith is “The Attachment Specialist”, helping people heal, connect, and build relationships. Leveraging years of professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist, he has honed his craft as a highly sought-after Attachment Specialist and personal coach. He has helped people from a variety of lifestyles, from blue collar families with marital troubles to millionaire CEOs looking for dating help, or anyone looking to fix their dating life, marriage, or overall health of all relationships. 

In this episode, Larry Hagner and guest Adam Lane Smith discuss the topic of attachment and its impact on relationships and marriages. They delve into their personal backgrounds and how their upbringing shaped their attachment styles. They also highlight the prevalence of attachment issues in today’s society, with research showing that a significant majority of adults in America struggle with attachment.

Attachment shapes our relationships in profound ways. It is the way we connect with other human beings, giving and receiving love. Our attachment style is learned from our caregivers, primarily our parents, and it forms the foundation for how we relate to others throughout our lives.

Adam Lane Smith further explains that attachment issues can stem from various factors, including neglect, abuse, absent parents, or inconsistent caregiving. When children experience these adverse circumstances, their brains often internalize the belief that something is wrong with them or with others. This belief shapes their attachment style and influences how they connect with others.

Recognizing and understanding our attachment style is crucial for personal growth and building healthier relationships. Therapy and self-reflection can help individuals address and heal from attachment wounds. By gaining insight into our attachment patterns, we can work towards developing more secure and fulfilling connections with others.

Larry’s Takeaways

1. If two individuals’ values are aligned, they have a solid foundation to build upon. 
2. It is important for individuals to have similar long-term goals. 
3. Being open with and honest about one’s own challenges and flaws. 

What You’ll Learn

00:01:14 Attachment shapes our relationships.

00:04:45 Fix attachment to build relationships.

00:11:13 Align values for trusting relationships.

00:14:13 Building trust in relationships is essential.

00:22:06. Fixing relationship dynamics is possible.

00:26:59 Communication is key for relationships.

00:29:38 Transforming relationships requires models, skills, and experiences.

00:36:25 Seek help and mentorship for growth.

00:37:56 Fear and uncertainty hinder transformation.

00:47:13. Building trust leads to fulfillment.

00:47:21 Fixing relationships requires open communication.

00:54:41 Fix your attachment, improve relationships.

Links

www.thedadedge.com/alliance 

www.adamlanesmith.com/courses

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